Insecurities – this is a feeling that everyone has felt one time in their life or are still feeling. Insecurity is an inner feeling of being threatened or inadequate in some way.
One thing is certain and that is insecurity comes from us, it starts with our inability to see anything good in ourselves.
Then we take it into our place of work, into our friendship circle and finally into our relationships.
This is the killer of all relationships, when you start manifesting your insecure ways of thinking and doing thing then you begin to push people away and you end up pushing the people who love you away too.
We tend to express this insecurities in so many ways that we don’t even know, from not trusting your partner, to checking his/her phone without permission, you can’t do anything without them being involved because you feel like you ain’t good enough, you even feel like you are less for your partner and that they too good for you.
Insecurity is a feeling which people don’t want but they don’t know how to stop it, how to come out of it, or how to move on from it.
This are 4 ways in which you can overcome insecurities and become a better you for your self and partner.
1. Trust in yourself: Doubting yourself is one of the things that kills every security you ever had. You have to start trusting yourself, trusting your decisions, trusting your every move.
Nobody wants something good for you more than the way you want it for yourself, and so if you can trust yourself more then nobody can make you feel less or make you even doubt yourself. Invest in your thinking towards yourself.
2. Build your self-esteem: the esteem is yours and that is why it is called self-esteem and so no body has the right to bring down your esteem. Nobody has the right to talk you down, unless you give them the permission to.
You have to choose your happiness over what you think you want. Your happiness is your need, every other thing is your want and my dear your need is superior to your want.
3. maintain your independence: just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to throw the life you had before away, you need to depend on yourself first before you depend on someone else.
When you depend too much on people you begin to lose yourself and then you start feeling yourself less which gives birth to insecurity, so if not for anything maintain your independence for the sake of your happiness.
4. Know your values: you need to know what you are worth. If you what you are worth then you won’t seek people’s approval for things that concerns your life or decisions. You will know that you are enough, and you are all the people supporting system that you need.
Your self worth is not attached to people’s approval towards things that concerns you. Your opinion is all that matters, until you understand that people will have their own opinion about you, and no matter what you do you can never change it.
Then you will understand why you are the only one that matters in your self relationship or any other one for that matter.