It has been a long-time debate and issue when it comes to choosing between one’s family or lover. A lot of the time, family members are mostly not in good terms with their relative’s lover or life partner which can cause a huge problem for the people involved.
According to Urban Dictionary, a family can be defined as a group of people, usually of the same blood (but do not have to be), who genuinely love, trust, care about and look out for each other. Not to be mistaken with relatives sharing the same household each other, while a lover is somebody that you love, and especially in the romantic/sexual sense. A sweetheart.
There is no denying that it is a very difficult thing to do when it comes to choosing between one’s family and lover, but my question is why do we need to choose? Why can’t we have both?. It is well known that there is this inwards competition that goes on between both parties, there is always a struggle for more attention or favor from both sides.
In as much as we do like to have a family of our own, we can’t throw away the family we have always known from birth or the people who have always been with us from the on go. Most times our family are the ones that pick us up even when our lovers abandon us in times of our need, but then again, if we really find the bone of our bone and the rib of our rib, maybe we can take a stand with them in front of our family if need be.
Many problems between family members and lovers always spring from misunderstanding, tribalism, or Jealousy (happens a lot with mothers-in-law and their daughters-in-law, with one of the pair feeling jealousy for the attention their son or husband gives to the other.)
It is not advisable to choose between either your family members or lover but if there is a need for it, then just go with your heart and make sure to make a decision you won’t regret.