One of the most horrible experience anyone can go through is a relationship breakup, breakup’s are terrible experiences and no one wants to go through it.
It is also vital to understand that people process breakups differently. Naturally it very normal and okay to just want to climb in a hole with a box of chocolate, a bowl of ice cream and cry yourself to sleep (Girls), Not entirely sure what the boys do, so if you are a guy reading this please comment and let me know.
Now, the healing process needs time, you have to give yourself time to process the breakup and allow yourself to heal. Also you need to pull yourself together and move on from the bad experience.Here are six healthy things to do after a breakup that will help you move on and heal as well.
1. Stop all forms of communication with your ex:
Stopping all communications with your ex is a very essential step, if you constantly keep in touch with them it is only going to slow down your healing process.
Hearing their voice or seeing their picture online especially with their new partners might trigger old memories and have you feeling overwhelmed with emotions and might probably lead to depression. So, your first step is to end all communications with them.
2. Remove all trace of them on your phone or social media:
Go delete all their pictures in your phones, computers and social media account. Put all the momentous of your relationship in a box; Pictures, gifts, hoodies, whatever you have, pack them up in a box and get rid of it. Having those reminders littered around your room can be very painful.
3. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones:
Hang out more with friends and family, Call up a friend and/or family, one, two, or m ore. Make plans to do something with them for a few days whether it’s lunch, coffee, drinks, or movie night, is necessary.
This is one of the times in your life where having people by your side matters. Having people around you will make you feel less lonely and isolated.
4. Do something you love:
Invest your time in a hobby, if you did not have one before, now is the time to have one — Do you enjoy singing? create time to join a choir, a band or write your own songs. It is an avenue to pour out your heart.
You can do whatever your hobby is –Gym, volunteering, sports, writing or cooking, create time for it and you will feel much better.
5. Pamper yourself:
Take yourself out, buy yourself nice things, give yourself a treat. Try to regain the self love you lost during the breakup.
Last but by no means the least, You’ve got to move on. When I say move on, I don’t mean jumping in into another relationship immediately. You do not need a relationship right now but you do need to mingle.
Mingling has nothing to do with one night stands (okay if one night stands works for you but be advised sometime you wake up feeling worse than before).
But the best idea is to remain celibate while mingling, just make friends and hang out, who knows one might actually lead you back to the mingling relationship game.